Secrets for Improving Your Sexual Performance in the Bedroom
Everyone these days is interested in improving their sexual performance in the bedroom. But men suffering with prostate problems are especially open to tips in this area. Approximately 14 million men suffer with enlarged prostate in America. The most pronounced symptom is frequent trips to the bathroom. This is not only inconvenient but can be embarrassing if you’re snuggled next to your girlfriend. You worry constantly that you might be interrupting her sleep, but what can you do?
Fortunately, there are numerous medical and all-natural treatments available today. These can provide varying degrees of relief from the pressure you feel in the prostate region. Alpha blocker drugs like terazosin relax those prostate muscles and relieve the need to go to the bathroom so much. Saw Palmetto is a natural substance that users have had good results with. There are many others, so don’t be shy about experimenting with these drugs until you find something that works for you.
Once that uncomfortable pressure on the prostate is relieved, you’ll feel a lot more like having a lovely evening with a beautiful girl.
Great Sexual Encounters Require Advanced Preparation
When we’re young and everything in the body is working great, it’s easy to have rewarding sexual encounters on the spur of the moment. But as we age, this requires a bit more preparation. Don’t let this concern or irritate you. Simply lay the right groundwork and move forward with a positive mental attitude.
If you take Alpha blockers or natural remedies, be sure to take those during the day of the expected sexual encounter. If you use male enhancement drugs, then make sure to have those on hand so you can take them in the correct time frame as well. On the day of sex, avoid spicy foods or harsh labor if at all possible. Spicy foods can cause bloating and gas and these are not a good recipe for fulfilling sex. Hard labor can make you feel tired and zap all your strength. You want to look and feel your best.
Prepare for the evening like it’s a special event and treat it that way. It can be a good idea to buy flowers or another small gift for your lady. You may want to take her out first to a good restaurant. Be sure to shower and dress up appropriately. Women notice the small things such as freshly pressed clothing or neatly trimmed beard and hair.
Many times, a woman will spend all day getting ready for a date only to find that the man spent about 10 minutes on it. This can be exasperating for women. Never show up to your date in dirty, wrinkled clothing. Always shower before the date, wash your hair and brush your teeth. If you take some extra time and effort getting ready, it can really pay off at the end of the evening.
Setting Up the Right Ambiance for Romance
As soon as you see your date, compliment her on her attire, her hair or her eyes. Let her know that she looks beautiful and that you’re excited to be spending time with her. At dinner, be sure to make eye contact. Be polite but try to enter into interesting conversation. Keep a good sense of humor and don’t work too hard at trying to appear charming or sophisticated. Just be the best version of yourself.
A great evening of amazing sex starts early in the day. If you speak to your partner on the phone or via email, be positive, upbeat or even funny. Women need to feel comfortable with a man. They need to feel understood and accepted just the way they are.
Don’t put any pressure on your date about expected sexual activities later. Let her know that you really enjoy spending time with her regardless. If a woman feels that she will be expected to “put out” later, then this will drain her natural desire for a man. Though she may have sex anyway, it will not be a memorable encounter. Women often go into a date worried that they will be expected to do things they’re not ready to do. The less pressure you can put on her, the better.
After dinner, suggest a relaxing drive and put on some soft music such as jazz. Ask your date if she would like to stop for a drink or coffee. Try to pick up on her non-verbal cues. Normally, a woman will want to at least kiss goodnight or make out some. Be gentle and non-threatening.
If the kiss goes well, continue on. Making out in the car, in a park or on the front porch can be exhilarating for both of you. If you feel the moment is right, it’s okay to move things up a notch and allow the romance to go to the next level. If this does not happen, it’s fine to simply say “Goodnight” and leave. You’ve laid the groundwork for a future night of passion.
If things go as planned, however, the level of passion will increase and you should be ready to move forward, both emotionally and physically. Always make your date feel comfortable about what’s going on. Watch for those non-verbal clues that she isn’t ready yet. Women appreciate being respected both in and out of the bedroom.
Be careful, slow and deliberate about removing her clothing. Compliment her and let her know that you think she’s beautiful and very special. Sometimes a simple touch, caress or squeeze can say more than words. Take your time when making love to a woman. Women usually require more foreplay than a man. Be sure that her sexual needs are met before climaxing. There are several different ways to ensure this such as oral sex or manual manipulation of the clitoris.
Once you climax, spend time just lying there in each other’s arms. One of the main complaints women have about sex is that their partner gets up or leaves the moment it’s over. Always lay there for a while, snuggled close. You might whisper how amazing she is and how you enjoyed being with her so much.
When a woman is treated well in the bedroom, you can expect her to be more open to future sexual escapades. As her level of intimacy and comfort increases, she might even be open to trying new things. Though it can be a process that men often don’t fully grasp, women need to feel completely loved, understood and accepted. The real secret to great sex every time is to establish this groundwork with your date.
Do You Have to Be Brad Pitt to Get Good Sex?
Many men believe women are only interested in rich or good-looking guys. This isn’t true. A woman responds positively when she feels loved. Beautiful women often marry men who aren’t very attractive. Marilyn Monroe was one of the most beautiful women to ever live but she dated and married men that might be considered plain and unattractive, such as Arthur Miller.
Women aren’t necessarily searching for great looks. They want to feel loved and valued. When you can tap into that part of a woman and meet those emotional needs, you’ll enjoy much better sex. Even if you aren’t planning to see the woman regularly or establish an ongoing relationship, there’s nothing wrong with leaving a woman believing that you’re a pretty amazing guy. Who knows? She might just tell her friends about how wonderful you are and this could lead to other relationships.
Practical Tips to Improved Sexual Performance
We’ve discussed many of the mental, physical and emotional aspects of having great sex but what about the practical stuff? Stay fit and healthy. You’ll enjoy a longer life and you’ll enjoy better stamina in bed when you feel and look your best. Get plenty of regular exercise. You don’t necessarily have to go to the gym. Take walks each day. Go swimming. Swimming is fun, healthy and easy on your joints in case you have a painful joint condition.
Eating healthy improves your overall life expectancy and your quality of life. Everyone knows that, but certain foods improve blood flow as well. These include:
- Onions and garlic – These increase blood flow when eaten regularly.
- Chiles and peppers – These improve blood flow and reduce inflammation.
- Bananas - Bananas are potassium rich and can lower your blood pressure.
- Olive oil – An important source of Omega-3 fatty acids.
- Salmon and tuna – These are both good sources of Omega-3 fatty acids. They also help to lower cholesterol levels.
- Avocados – These are a great source of over 20 important vitamins and minerals. They can be prepared many ways or used to dress up a dish. Avocados are an important source of fatty acids. They contain more potassium than bananas.
- Lean red meat – You can overdo it with this one and it is a favorite of most Americans but a juicy steak and a baked sweet potato is a delicious meal that delivers good amounts of protein, iron and zinc.
All-Natural Solutions to Enlarged Prostate
As men age, it’s very common to experience the condition known as “enlarged prostate”. Though there are no cures for this condition, you can greatly alleviate your symptoms. See your doctor and get a good assessment and recommended treatment program from a qualified physician.
Before getting on any prescription drugs, it can be a good idea to try a few of the all-natural treatment options. Men have been suffering with this condition since the beginning of time, so most cultures have developed their own methods. For instance, in Germany, pumpkin seeds are used because they contain lots of zinc and have diuretic properties. Pumpkin seeds can be eaten raw but don’t add salt. A delicious tea can also be made by crushing pumpkin seeds, then pouring hot water over them. Let this steep for a few minutes and strain. Add your favorite sweetener.
The Amish enjoy a fresh-tasting watermelon tea. This tea flushes out the system and alleviates pain and pressure due to bladder or prostate problems. Place about 1/8 cup of fresh watermelon seeds in a 1-pint jar and fill with boiling water. Allow the tea to steep for 10 minutes, then strain and drink. Make a similar tea from corn silk. Strip the silk from 6 ears of corn, then place in a 1-pint jar. Pour boiling water over it and allow to steep for ten minutes. Honey can be added to sweeten.
Soy-based foods reduce testosterone production, which in turn reduces the discomfort associated with enlarged prostate. Any foods that reduce phytoestrogens can help as well. These include tuna, salmon, leafy green vegetables, apples, beets, broccoli, coconut water, blueberries and others. These foods help to reduce inflammation in the body as well so they can ease painful arthritis and other joint conditions. High levels of inflammation in the body can make you feel tired and lethargic. They decrease the libido and can even cause digestive problems or skin allergies.
Stress and Healthy Living
Stress is real killer. It wreaks havoc on your general health including your libido. Stress increases blood pressure and heart rate and these can hamper your sexual drive and performance. Try to find activities that help you reduce stress. These can vary with each person. Some people find a long bath relaxing, while others take long walks. Exercise is often a good way to reduce stress and calm down.
Psychological stress is easily missed by doctors, but it can prevent you from achieving a full erection and reaching an orgasm. This type of stress comes whenever you have had negative experiences in the past that leave you feeling helpless, alone or discouraged. Perhaps you were in a great relationship with someone that went south and you never understood exactly what happened. You may have had tense relationships with family members that still haunt you.
Though these types of events are difficult to avoid in life, remember that no one has a perfect life. Though movie stars and millionaires may seem like they really have it all together, they don’t. Their lives are sometimes more complex and filled with tension than anyone else’s. When we realize how fragile life is and how so many events are out of our control, we can take a deep breath and just admit that we’re all struggling with something on this journey called “Life”.
Creating Good Karma
One older sit-com features Charley Harper, a man who loves having sex with women but doesn’t really know how to create a healthy, long-lasting relationship with a woman. Charley creates a lot of bad Karma by sleeping with girls, but never calling them later. The girls get so frustrated that they eventually build a website for all his old girlfriends … a place where they can go and share their ugly stories of their time with him.
It doesn’t cost anything to be a good guy who respects women. Even if you know that a relationship isn’t going anywhere, at least text the girl occasionally to say hello. Never sleep with a woman, then make her feel like she was used. You can build up quite a bit of bad Karma doing that. Plus, women can be extremely vengeful and nobody needs that type of negativity in their life. Try to leave things on a positive note with each person you meet, especially past lovers.